This weekend reminded me that I need to reestablish my work life balance. If I'm not careful I can work all the time. I now I need to slow down when I feel like I'm being pushed through my days. Tyler and I had plans on Saturday to take care of some life "chores." Long story short, what we had planned didn't work out. It was something I was really hoping we could take off our to do list, but it just didn't happen. I found myself in tears feeling overwhelmed and after a long talk with Tyler I knew I needed to slow down and reestablish a better balance between work and life.
REST IN JESUS
One of the first things I know I need to do when reestablishing a better work life balance is focus on Jesus. One thing that causes me to race through my days, in hopes to get as much done as possible, is fear... fear of the business missing out. When this happens, I know I'm off track. I know I'm trying to make it happen all by myself. I have to refocus on the timing of Jesus and let Him carry the burden of success. I simply have to show up and do my best. I don't have to make the business succeed. I just have to abide in Christ and let Him guide me.
EMBRACE ALL YOUR WINS
Another thing that usually sends me into a tizzy is that I'm a task master. This is both a strength and a weakness. I function well with task oriented projects. I understand what needs to be done and I get it done. It's strength that I can see the tasks and attack them. This task master strength is a legitimate weakness as well because it can cloud everything else I have going on and I can become enthralled by all of my tasks that I get overwhelmed and anxious. Being a task master can sometimes lead to imbalance.
A friend of mine gave me some really great advice to help me balance my task master tendencies. I often struggle with not getting tasks done and I sometimes feel bad about it. He reminded me that I have to embrace all of my wins. If I'm not completing "work" related tasks it's because I'm working on relational tasks. I'm taking time to spend time with Tyler or friends. I'm taking time to call my brother or write a friend a note. Or I'm taking time to take care of myself.
TAKE CARE OF YOUR SELF
This is a big one I often neglect. It's really easy for me to stay focused on my tasks and work myself into a frenzy. It's hard for me to relax sometimes when I know things need to get done; laundry, dishes, cleaning the bathroom, picking up... you know, basically anything house related. This past weekend, I had plans to get a lot done, but then I spent my Saturday morning crying. That's when I knew something needed to change. I decided I would spend my weekend doing nothing, no work and not too many chores. Tyler and I went on a date and when I woke up on Monday morning I took things slow. I put my hair up and put on a little make-up (something I don't do when I am home.) I spent time reading my Bible, praying, and before rushing ahead into my day, I picked up around the house. I took a few deep breaths and knew whatever work I managed to get done would be good.
ASK FOR HELP
I'm not sure why asking for help is so difficult for me, but man, I need to get better at this. Tyler is always ready and willing to help me, but he doesn't know I need help unless I ask. I have been working on being more specific about my needs and asking Tyler when I need help with certain things around the house. Running a business is also super tough and I need help with that too. I have been trying to get better about asking other business friends for help when I can't figure things out. We're all in this together.
SPEND TIME IN COMMUNITY
This one is so important and the one I am the worst at... but I'm trying to get better. I'm partially bad at this because we've moved around a lot and I takes me a while to make friends. By nature I'm cautious when getting to know people and it takes me a really long time to decided I feel safe with a person. But I know that spending time in community and making friends, makes all the difference for me.
How is your work life balance? Is it easy for you to overwork yourself? What are some of your favorite tips to keep things in balance? xoxo. Samantha